How To Handle Failure In Life (5 Easy Steps).

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Those whose every venture is a passion, don’t believe in failure.

“I don’t believe in failure. It’s not failure if you enjoyed the process.” – Oprah Winfrey.

When you decide to take the risk to attempt to achieve what you’ ven’t achieved before, you’re going to pay a price for success. Failure is the price paid for success.

The price paid for success is too great for many people, this is the reason a lot of people don’t achieve success in life. Many people fail once and quit, few are able to carry on the back of few failures only to get blown away by one more failure.

There’s a group of very strong people who will never quit no matter how many times they fail. Each time they fail, they come back stronger to try again and again until they succeed.

People in this group know how to handle the failure and its aftermath the way a lot of us don’t. what do they know that most don’t?

  1. When they fail, they blame no one and they don’t complain.

People who never seem to be discouraged by multiple failures accept responsibility for mistakes that cost them success every time they fail. They know that everyone is self-responsible for their success in life.

So they look for no one to blame, no system to blame and they don’t blame themselves. Rather they accept the fact that they didn’t everything right to succeed on that occasion.

Acceptance of this fact opens the door to critical objective assessment of the outcome.

You should adopt the same approach the next time you fail. Refuse to play the blame game and refuse to complain about it.

Why shouldn’t you complain? Because it could either delay a recommitment to try again or cause you to quit completely.
Steve Maraboli said when you fail,

It’s time to care; it’s time to take responsibility; it’s time to lead; it’s time for a change; it’s time to be true to our greatest self; it’s time to stop blaming others.”

2. Be determined to do it until you succeed.

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.” – Og Mandino.

No matter the number of failures, you would hardly quit when you’re determined to remain committed to a course of action until you succeed. The determination puts you in a situation where no you have only one option; to keep going forward.

In such a situation, you become determine to succeed every time you fail. Every failure gets you digging deeper and searching wider for answers to the question, “Why did I fail again?”

You’re going to find some answers which should help design better plans, better tactics and better strategies.


3. Come up with better plans.

As mentioned above, answers from objective assessment of reasons for failure should be used to construct better plans and alternatives. The plans should be flexible and elastic enough to effectively respond to unforeseen changes and accommodate the closest dragon.

J.R.R. Tolkien — ‘It does not do to leave a live dragon out of your calculations, if you live near him.’

It’s important to note that crafting plans better than the former would require a lot of research to know what helped someone before you in a similar situation.

Where there’s a system already in place, don’t try to reinvent the wheels. Go ahead and use an already existing success template. But don’t ignore the reality that no two situations are exactly the same.

4. Test your new plans.

Your next attempt should be a venture to minimize the chances of failure as much as possible.

Therefore to achieve this objective, wisdom requires new plans must be tested before applying them to real situations.

Don’t be a in hurry to jump into the furnace, take your time and arm yourself better. You’re more confident to face many situations when you’re conscious of the reliability of your tested plans.


5. Self-confidence is crucial.

High self-esteem is a very tool for overcoming multiple failures. It’s easier for highly self-confident people to be quickly aware that they would’ve done better every time you fail.

This awareness powers the determination to go back and try to do better than the previous attempt.

Final words, believe that failure is a process. It doesn’t stop a young bird that falls during flying lesons from trying again and again until it masters the art of soaring. The wings get stronger after every fall.
Failure shouldn’t stop you, every failure should make you stronger. So never doubt you can fly high. J. M. Barrie said,

The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.”

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