7 Ways To Help You Get Rid Of Self Doubt.

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“Our doubts are traitors,
and make us lose the good we oft might win,
by fearing to attempt.” – William Shakespeare.

“You are bigger than yourself doubt. Remind yourself of that each and every day.” – Caroline Ghosn.

That feeling of uncertainty about some aspects of your life can rob you of a golden opportunity to advance in life and live the life you truly deserve. Self doubt does more harm than this.

The lack of confidence in your abilities, can lead to low self esteem, indecision, anxiety and depression. The habit of self doubt can lead to emotional instability and life threatening health conditions.

The good news is, self distrust doesn’t have power over your life except you let it.
You can get rid of it, dismantle the obstacle of apprehension and go on to live a life at the highest level of self esteem.

Here are tips to help you get rid of self doubt:

  1. Be ready to ‘unlearn’ and change.

Self doubt is rooted in beliefs we formed about ourselves during formative years.

Most of the doubts parents and adult relatives express about our abilities tend to stick to most of us through childhood to adulthood and sometimes, throughout a life time.

Few on achieving self discovery and becoming self aware, are able to break away from beliefs that feed self doubt.

So the first attempt to dismantle the obstacle of self doubt is to have the readiness to unlearn those misconceptions about you, taught to you by parents.

Make it a habit to ask deep questions about your abilities and the truth about success.

Dispassionate answers should affirm or disabuse your mind of wrong beliefs about you.

Armed with self awareness, self doubt would cease to be an obstacle on your path to a great life.

2. Where does your strength lie?

What is my real strength? It is important to know where your real strength lies so that you can focus on developing it.

People hardly succumb to the feeling of self doubt when they are in their element.

It’s dificult to believe that you can know how to do what you love to do and still don’t have a significant knowledge about.

It’s highly unlikely, that the gap between where you are and where you want to be (the best) would cause you to doubt your abilities.

Rather,, it should inspire you to learn more and work harder to close it.

Knowing and staying faithful your passion should help you set limits to what you take on.

There is nothing wrong with getting others to take care of those areas you have zero competences to handle.

Doing this should spare you the agonizing and debilitating feeling of self doubt.

3. Avoid comparing yourself to others.

When you find what you’re good at and enjoy operating from there, you tend to focus more on developing yourself to become the best of you.

What this near exclusive focus on self does is, it leaves you with no time to get into distractive comparison game.

No time for that, no time for unnecessary distractions, as you would be using every second to push yourself to achieve consistent peak performances.

It’s when you stop to look to your sides and begin to compare yourself to others that the feeling of self doubt begins to creep in.

4. Engage in positive self talk.

“Watch what you tell yourself, you’re likely to believe it.” – Russ Kyle.

When you begin to feel the early signs of self doubt, stop it in its tracks with positive self talk.

When You hear the silent but audible whisper,

‘Look Grattam, you will not be able to handle this one’, speak out and counter it with a firm audible self talk,

“Yes, I can do this. I have achieved bigger things than this in the past.”

Yes, you have past achievements to lean on for inspiration and for the confidence to counter the negative power of self doubt.

And if you were operating in your area of core competences, you wouldn’t have shortage of stories about overcoming similar challenges in the past.

Use those to stop the feeling of self doubt before it stops you.

5. Live in the presence.

“Living in the moment means letting go of the past and not waiting for the future. It means living your life consciously, aware that each moment you breath is a gift.” Oprah Winfrey

Living in the presence is very crucial to dictating the feeling of self doubt at its early innocuous stages.

What this means is that, it pays to be actively engaged in giving your whole to the task at hand.

Then becoming aware of your thoughts, perceptions and feelings at crucial moments when you must get the job done.

It’s difficult not to be aware of the feeling of self doubt when you’re in a conscious state.

6. Spend time with positive minded people.

To stop the habit of having self doubt, you have to stop spending time with people who constantly doubt your abilities and cause you to doubt them too.

Build a personal network of positive minded people.

Your network is your real net worth. So if you want to overcome self doubt and consistently produce at your highest level, you need to be around people who always tell you, “You can do it.”

You need people who will tell you when you fail, ‘Try again, I believe the result is going to be better the next time.”

Positive minded people will often express optimistic and encourage you not to allow failures make you doubt your abilities to succeed.

7. Trust in yourself.

“Believe in yourself and have faith in your abilities! Without humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy.” – Norman Vincent Peale

We’re gifted with the abilities to overcome every obstacle to a beautiful life. We’re born with them untapped and untainted.

Unfortunately, the seed of doubt is sown in most of us while we’re still unaware of the power we have and how to use it.

This seed is sown out of love and the desire to save us from the problems of the world. But it grows along with us to become the biggest problem for many.

This biggest problem can be solved.


By trusting in those abilities you have used in the past to achieve good results. And by also trusting yourself to get better and better.

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