Erich Fromm -“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. “

“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.” –  Erich Fromm

At the begining, the feeling is overwhelming. Many promises are made at the beginning when the power of Love relegates reality.

But as weeks become months, illusion gives qay to reality.

Sometimes the illusion lasts for years before it becomes certain that it would be difficult to keep promises made when the brain was on leave.

When reality sets in, the feeling starts to ebbs away and if the drift is not stopped on time, everyone may go their separate ways.

Long before infatuation gives way to reality, take the decision to love and to stay in love. Take the decision to accept all imperfections that make all of us human.

Learn to judge impartially. But before you do, judge yourself first. Can you give what you are asking for? Can you be the one you are asking another to be? And don’t ever forget that a relationship is about two different people joint together by the power of Love . Love doesn’t erase all the differences. It only creates a union where one is accepted by another for who they truly are.

Now let that power of Love be the strength you need to keep all promises made at the begining. Where you can’t keep some, don’t hold back from being sincere about your inability. But no inability should be an excuse to break a heart.


Question- Does Love Die?

Answer in the book- “Answers To Life’s Frequently Asked Questions.


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