“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”- Friedrich Nietzsche.
If you are unhappy in your marriage, search for this truth; Is your spouse still your best friend?
Is your spouse still that friend and confidant that you discussed everything with? Are you still talking with your spouse about your aspirations, fears, facts, fantasies, irrelevant and relevant issues? Or do you now mind your business to the extent of keeping little secrets and hiding your fears?
Real friends tell themselves the truth about everything and they share everything including pains and hopelessness. So if you and your spouse have stopped sharing everything between you, then both of you have lost the binding gel that’s friendship. With friendship gone, love is hollow. An empty love is weakened and it’s powerless to make both of you happy.
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